friendships & familiars

i believe labels should *start* conversations, not *replace* them.

this is not a “True” framework, it is simply an example of being creative to get around a problem i noticed in my own life and mind.

a bubble graph showing levels of friendship—from acquaintances to friends to kindred spirits to familiars
for me, a “partner” is a “romantic kindred spirit” or beyond.

the problem is: i notice myself bumping up against the limitations of the simplified “acquaintance <-> friend” spectrum. other people made solutions that add more steps *between* the two (i really love Maria Popova’s concept, though it’s a bit wordy), but for me i realize that it’s far simpler to add more steps *beyond*.

that way, my conversational language can change more slowly, and more intentionally—AND i get to have new conversations with my favorite people to see if they’re comfy with their new label in my life (and if not, we get to collaborate on a better one for us!).

i can’t be wrong about this. and neither can you!

so tell me what yours are, and why.


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